Having a pretty face is nice to have. But you know what actually makes you attractive? How you make other people feel. Your personality. Your character. Your presence. That’s what lasts. People won’t remember how pretty your face looked. They’ll be drawn to you by how you treat people, your values, and your energy. And no, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t work on your outer appearance. Of course, you should. It just means your character will always matter more. In this post, we’ll cover how you can actually become more attractive – inside and out. For yourself, and for others too. Because let’s face it, if you like yourself, others will too.
16 Ways to Become More Attractive
Section 1 – Glow Up From the Outside
First, we will cover the external glow-up part, which is much easier to improve than the internal part. We will discuss the deeper stuff later in this post.
Hygiene Matters Most
It’s the most obvious point, but it’s also the most crucial one. Because you could literally have the prettiest face, but if you smell more often than not, it’s what people will remember, obviously.
The basics are: shower daily or every other day, and on the days you don’t shower, wash the most important parts at least. Wear fresh underwear every day, use an antiperspirant, have a simple skincare routine, brush your teeth, and most importantly, your tongue. Tip: Brush your tongue before you brush your teeth because that works best.
If you get this right every day, then you’re already safe.
A Simple Skincare Routine
We all know those people on social media who have a fancy 10-step skincare routine, right? But honestly, who actually needs that? I mean, if you already do that and it works for you, keep it up, but if not, don’t worry, because you don’t need it.
Cleanse, moisturize, and use SPF. SPF literally gives you instant “glass skin,” haha. But honestly, all the hype around it is totally overblown because it’s actually super unrealistic. I’ve never seen anyone with glass skin in real life. Have you?
Make It Fit Your Body Type
Seriously, wear clothes that fit. The best thing you can do is not fight your body shape, but work with it. I promise you’ll feel more confident and look way more put-together.
But to dress according to your body shape, you’ll first need to find out yours:
- Hourglass shape, aka hips and shoulders are the same width, and a well-defined waist:
- Works well: fitted tops that highlight the waist, high-waist skirts and trousers, wrap tops, belts, body-skimming dresses
- Less flattering: boxy, straight cuts that hide the waist, very low-rise bottoms that break proportions
- Pear shape, aka wider hips, and narrower shoulders:
- Works well: structured or lighter tops, V-necks, boat necks, and darker and cleaner lines on the bottom
- Less flattering: clingy fabrics on hips and overly detailed or bulky bottoms
- Apple shape, aka more volume around the midsections:
- Works well: flowy tops that skim, not cling. V-necks, and straight or slightly flared bottoms
- Less flattering: tight waist seams, and stiff, cropped tops that cut the torso
- Inverted triangle shape, aka broader shoulders and narrower hips:
- Works well: softer, simpler tops, wide-leg pants, and A-line skirts
- Less flattering: heavy shoulder details and very tight, minimal bottoms
Wear Clothes That Match Your Life
I think this point is often underestimated. Because if you constantly have to adjust your clothes, you quickly start to feel uncomfortable. That’s why I personally like to wear clothes that are suitable for everyday wear.
Examples:
If you walk, study, or work a lot -> don’t wear shoes that are difficult to walk in or clothes that are generally uncomfortable.
If you have long days -> don’t wear clothes that constantly slip, pinch, or need to be adjusted.
I believe that only when clothes suit you, you feel comfortable in them, and you still look good wearing them, can you go through the day with confidence.
Neutrals As A Base, Not A Rule
Neutral colors always work. If colors overwhelm you, always start with neutrals as a base. Colors like beige, gray, white, navy, and black.
The best thing is that you can combine these colors extremely well. You’ll never have any trouble with them, honestly. In addition, you can always add a pop of color. I just love how neutrals make styling so easy.
Tip: when you go shopping, it’s better to buy a few high-quality items than lots of cheap ones. Fabrics such as cotton, wool, linen, or viscose look more elegant and high-quality than polyester, for example.
On that note, always steam your clothes. You can also use a portable one like this one. It really makes a big difference.
Hair = Grooming, Not Styling
Find out which hairstyle suits you best and is sustainable. Because who has time to spend an hour styling their hair every morning? That’s why you should find a hairstyle that you can quickly conjure up in the morning and wear regularly in everyday life.
Don’t forget: healthy hair > styled hair.
So: get your ends trimmed regularly, braid your hair overnight, don’t wash your hair with hot water, and use oil or leave-in conditioner regularly.
Frame the Face
Eyebrows and eyelashes basically frame your face. That’s why it makes sense to have both parts on fleek. Try to lightly define your eyebrows and fill in any gaps. Then curl your eyelashes slightly to add some bounce. None of this takes long and will instantly make you look more awake.
Nails on Point
Yes, yes, those good old nails that seem like a tiny detail on the body, yet mean more than we think. Well-groomed nails are essential.
And no, you don’t have to go to the nail tech every two weeks to achieve this. The important thing is to keep your nails clean, trimmed, and shaped.
It’s all quick and easy, and you can always do it on the side. Even when you’re sitting on the toilet.
Finish the Look
You don’t have to constantly buy new shoes. But they should always be clean. It’s best to choose shoes that go with most outfits. I think this is the best way to avoid needing several pairs of shoes. The same applies to your bag. Of course, it shouldn’t be half broken.
Also, it doesn’t have to be an expensive bag, just a clean, classic one that goes with everything. And especially when shoes and a bag complement each other, your outfit looks intentional and complete.
Leave a Trace
A scent can define you without anyone seeing it. Choose a clean fragrance that suits you and isn’t too overpowering. That way, you can wear it every day without getting sick of it.
If you don’t have a signature scent yet, try out different fragrances on your skin. Do you find the scent pleasant? Is it too strong? Does it not last long?
Once you’ve found your signature scent, it’s important not to change it constantly. This is the only way people will associate you directly with a particular fragrance.
Stand Tall, Move Gracefully
Shoulders back, head high, and slow it down. It won’t automatically make you more confident, but it will make you appear that way to others.
And even more importantly, maintain eye contact. Very few people can actually do this, which is why you’ll really stick in people’s minds. At the end of the day, people notice how you carry yourself more than what you wear.
You Respect Your Body
You only have one body in this lifetime, so you’ve got to treat it right. That means eating healthy mostly and working out. Not only will you develop more self-respect, but you’ll also feel more attractive. You’ll literally glow.
Also, you don’t have to go from 0 to 100. Start slowly, go to the gym twice first, and then see how it goes. What’s important is that you get the ball rolling.
Consistency > Perfection
Being attractive once in a while is not the kind of sustainability that lasts. A simple routine that you can stick to every day and that isn’t extremely time-consuming, on the other hand, is.
Things like neat hair, clean nails, subtle makeup, or a skincare routine, picking out your outfit the night before – if you do these things every day, you will always look well-groomed, and will be seen as someone who takes care of themselves.
Section 2 – Glow Up From the Inside
Now we’ve come to the part where we’ll dig a little bit deeper.
A Mind of Your Own
Do you know those people who say yes to literally everything? The ones who just agree with you whenever you express your opinion. Not just once, but always. What do you think of people like that?
It’s, well, unattractive. As simple as that. You know, it’s even understandable that people don’t voice their opinions openly. They’re afraid.
But believe me, most people will find you much more attractive if you don’t always agree and just say what you think. And you know what’s even more attractive? When you can change your mind if you know you’re wrong. That’s what’s called growth.
EQ > IQ
When it comes to human relationships, emotional intelligence will always matter more. You know what people love the most? They love to feel seen and heard. They want others to actively listen to them.
To try to understand them, and not to win an imaginary conversational battle. That’s attractive, and believe me when I say, they’ll always come back to you.
Be Vulnerable
People will never really get to know you if you don’t open up to them. That doesn’t mean you have to tell them your whole life story. But showing others what’s going on in your mind, how you feel, lets people know that you’re a human too, and not just a pretty face.
Otherwise, people will never really feel close to you, and vice versa. They’ll think you’re cold. Trust me, I know how hard this is because I’m way too closed off myself.
But I’ve found that it’s helped me build deeper relationships with the people around me. You know, just try to trust people until they prove you otherwise.
Quiet Joy
Having a positive aura will always be something that draws people in. It’s not about having joy as your only emotion, but rather about having an overall positive mindset and outlook on life. And to appreciate the little things in life.
I strongly believe people love others who are like this simply because it’s rare for these kinds of people to exist nowadays. If you are happy and content with yourself and your life, you radiate this, and people see it.
Own Your Life
Complaining is one of the worst traits people can have. That may be my personal opinion, but I’m sure many of you would agree with me. There is nothing more attractive than someone who owns up to their mistakes and doesn’t see themselves as the victim of their own destiny.
If you make a decision that doesn’t lead to the outcome you hoped for, don’t dwell on it, but own up to it, move on, and seek solutions. That’s attractive.
If you’re playing the victim all the time, all you do is exhaust others, but also yourself, because you never feel like you’re in control of your own life.
Have High Standards
I don’t just mean setting high standards for other people, but also for yourself.
When it comes to you: Hold yourself accountable, live according to your own values, eat healthy, work out, say no to things you don’t want to do, and do the things you say you’re gonna do. And you can apologise when you’re wrong without people needing to force you. The result is that you’ll have more self-respect.
When it comes to others: Set boundaries, don’t overexplain yourself, don’t run after people who don’t truly see you, don’t hold onto them, and let them go if you need to. However, once you leave, don’t let them back in. The result is that people will respect you more.
Values & Integrity
I think this is one of the most important aspects of becoming more attractive. It’s not enough to just know your values and beliefs. You have to live by them. If your values are constantly changing and you’re easily influenced by others, no one can really take you seriously.
Stay true to yourself at all times. This also means that you will respect yourself more and be respected by others.
Like, if you value punctuality, always be on time. If you value honesty, always strive for it yourself. Live by example.
Intellectual Humility
What I mean by that is that you always have to stay curious. Allow yourself to be the one who doesn’t know everything if you don’t. Ask questions and admit when you don’t know something.
Of course, it’s great if you read a lot and learn as much as you can, as it should be. But the fact is that no one can know everything, and that’s okay.
To Wrap It Up
I wholeheartedly believe that to become more attractive, it’s mostly about checking in on your inner world and personal growth. Because when you look content, when you know who you are and what you stand for, you radiate that happiness. Others will notice it and feel drawn to you. Of course, it’s also important to make an effort to look your best on the outside. But it won’t ever cover up for how you feel on the inside.
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